BUT, when you’re on stage in front of thousands (or tens of thousands of people) you don’t want to fall on your face. Or your arse. You want to be the slightly cooler, skinnier, more fabulous version of yourself….you want to be the instagram version of yourself. Not the kind of person that gets a flat tire. Not the kind of person who drops their eggs leaving the grocery store. Not the person who gets kale in their teeth. Not the kind of person that falls down (or up—true story) the stairs.
You’re a little exposed on stage. You’re kind of vulnerable, and it’s your job to be simultaneously vulnerable—vulnerable enough to connect to your audience– but not *so* vulnerable that you don’t seem like a “star.”
But you’re running around on a stage that’s often slightly different every night (oftentimes the crew has to build it a little bit differently based on the venue,) so even if you’re bringing the same stage with you on a team of semi trucks, it can vary slightly from night to night. And sometimes you’re in heels (or always.) And sometimes you’re in an outdoor venue, and it just finished raining, and you’re in wedges. Enter Bangor Maine.
There are really only a handful of times I’ve played in front of tens of thousands of people, and this particular show opening for Luke Bryan was in front of about 30,000. So I was already nervous. And as the opening act, they don’t really know you. They’re not *your* fans, but you want to make them your fans.
You want to kill it. My goals are usually in this order: sing well, have fun, be entertaining, leave it all on the stage.
Anyway, it was the end of the last song. We were having a great show. A GREAT show. We were filming for a live video piece for “Famous”—which wasn’t a single yet, but was about to be.
Here’s the performance video. (All the shots of me in the cream top/shorts are from this show.)
And at the very end of the set, I slipped in a little bit of rain water on the stage. And I went DOWN. Hard. They didn’t put that in the video.
My thoughts were: Ouch. This is really embarrassing. I’m glad I’m wearing shorts and not a skirt.
The girls in the front row immediately called out “selfie, selfie!” almost in unison. So we took a selfie (while I was still laying on the stage.) It made me feel a little better. Here’s why: when you mess up or do something stupid or embarrassing you’re afraid people will reject you. Right? That’s the only reason it matters if you “mess up”. If you’re not perfect, or cool, or whatever, people might not want to be with you, or be friends with you, or in my case….like your music.
And sure, the girls might have been kind of laughing at the situation, But I felt like they got it. It was funny. It was a little embarrassing. The singer who was just performing busted in front of 30,000 people. Face now perfectly eye-level with the front row. So let’s take a selfie.
Here are some of the tweets I got.
Nobody rejected me, in fact they kind of cheered me on. Maybe some laughed with me. So what’s the moral of the story? Everyone falls down. And I’m not gonna say something super cheesy about it being about the number of times you get back up. Cause of course you’re gonna get back up. That’s what you do. The point is, people aren’t rooting against you. You don’t have to hide from anyone. They may even be there on the ground to laugh with you about it. Everybody falls down.
A little video evidence to prove my point.