Just don’t. I had to learn that early on. ESPECIALLY if it’s a video on Youtube. JUST DON’T READ THE COMMENTS.
Here’s why. In my experience, the majority of people that write comments on Youtube videos fall into one of two categories:
1)They love everything you do.
Which is amazing!!! But it also means they’re a teensy bit biased. They’re already fans. And while their love is SO appreciated, and you wouldn’t have a career without their support…it’s kinda like your mom saying you’re amazing. She’s your mom. She already thinks you’re amazing.
2) They hate you. They might hate everything in general, but they definitely hate what you do. And they get off telling you that you suck. And they take you ”sucking” very personally. Like there’s no, “this isn’t really my thing” grey area with these people. They dislike what you do so much that they NEED to tell you. Also, I would lump in here people that write nasty vulgar sexually explicit comments. Because, gross, and WHY?
Now, for the most part I read and interact with as many Twitter, Instagram and Facebook comments as I can. It’s fun and informative and I love the “real time” aspect of it. But I stay as far away as I can from Youtube comments, and if you’re a songwriter or artist, I recommend you do the same. You don’t need that kind of negativity in your head. And really, if you’re an artist, you don’t make music based on what you think people with say. So keeping unproductive feedback out of your head is helpful, I think. There are enough voices in there as it is. I’ve heard somebody say, “don’t believe the best or the worst thing anyone writes about you.”
At some point I probably will have to do a “part 2” of this post and talk specifically about what happened when we put “Famous” out….maybe we’ll put that in the upcoming podcast. But suffice it to say, the song that I’m sharing with you below came out of my experience of having a presence in the public eye. Write what you know, right?
It’s called “Haters,” and I wrote it with Jennifer Hanson and Jason Lenhing in the early spring of 2014. Here’s the demo…
I decided to pair this post with some images from Watersound Beach down on the Florida panhandle, because sometimes you just need a break from being so plugged in. What people say or think about you on the internet is not who you are. I know that sounds hypocritical, since I’m writing a blog and posting about it on social media, but I have to remember that I’m not the Instagram version of myself. And it’s easy to get wrapped up in public perception…even if you’re not someone whose job puts you in the public eye. Your real bio, and your real achievements, and real value have nothing to do with your Facebook page or how many followers you have on Twitter. And I think it’s a great discipline to just turn off the phone or leave it at the house when you can. A different kind of spring “break.”
I’m not traveling for spring break this year, but I’m still gonna try and get outside and cop some of the peace and relaxation that I get when I’m standing by the ocean. And if you’re not traveling either, I hope you can take some time for yourself to fast from the pace of your workweek, and remember who you are when no one’s looking. Because I bet that person is pretty great.
(Dress from Perspicacity. Similar here. Beach towels here. Favorite instant camera (on SALE) here.
Also, on a fashion note…the beach just makes me want to wear a bunch of breezy, relaxed dresses. It also makes me wonder why we’re still obsessed with body-con styles. A dress doesn’t need to be super tight to be sexy. If you need some breezy spring dress inspo, I hope this helps! (Click through to see what I’m loving.) xo